I've a question with the fact that I hear folks, of any race, say issues about how black males like fats white women and how the fat white ladies cant get a white man, super thick and curvy huge tits pictures in order that they flip to a black man. I feel I am usually drawn to, or have dated, different match individuals as a result of they are involved in the same sports and actions I am concerned in. 3. I'm liking this increasingly
Solar, Sep 19, 1999 - 3:35 AM/EST
wayne I applaud the courage to ask a query you deem borderline. I've heard this from many individuals, even before I met my husband......I still hear it, and do not understand it. My ideas on the topics. I've a feeling I'm opening a can of worms with this question, but I have noticed that black males appear to be interested in me, and "heavy-set" women. I hope I dont offend anyone, I always needed to ask...... 2. Not offended...
Sun, Sep 19, 1999 - 2:14 AM/EST
noreen Let's attempt to be trustworthy and open on this group. If the question is honest, I'm not offended. I do have a superb good friend that I've talks with or see a film with who weighs 400+ pounds. However he might never do bicycle touring or hiking like I spend my weekends doing.I've by no means observed/heard the stereotype that black males favor overweight white ladies. My hope is that we may have the courage to ask the uncomfortable questions. I'm a bodily fit individual. I am curious to others experiences and feelings on this level. I used to be informed by a member of my household that, sure members of my household think that is why i married a black man.

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On not figuring out about certain issues-America is a divided land culturally and that i imagine that to be truth(possibly a subject later). This will likely account for why some individuals are always in the click. In order a minority tradition you have to also be in tune with what the majority is doing. Quite merely we need to know what the majority does to outlive and the majority does not necessarily must find out about the other cultural nuances to survive. All of the other cultures have their own identities but all of their identities must enable them to be in a position to keep a productive relationship with the majority culture here in America. You might have the majority culture("white") and also you additionally have other cultures including African American culture. I think that's why sometimes minority group members are extra aware of the rumors or more in tune with what the majority does.

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Sun, Sep 19, 1999 - 3:37 AM/EST
wayne As regards to lovely girls- I imagine African American tradition allows for many different body ideals for girls due to its personal therapy all through time. I believe this manifests itself in the apparent constructive self picture younger black lady usually have of themselves no matter what their body type. It touched me and allowed me to see that I am lovely no matter whether or not I'm a measurement five or a size 12. In Florida while a teenager, I was around much more African American individuals then I'm in Nebraska. I have no idea why..upbringing, support of community...but I do know that seeing the men and women behave in far higher acceptance has influenced me. 8. Thanks
Tue, Sep 21, 1999 - 1:Fifty three PM/EST
lmh That is Leslie (lmh) I haven't got much to say about this subject so I won't try to make one thing come out with meaningfulness. Nicely who shapes this purpose? He nonetheless considers me cute and my dimension was by no means a problem. 5. Hello Colleen
Solar, Sep 19, 1999 - 3:Fifty eight PM/EST
mms In my expertise when i first met my now husband I was 19, a size 3 and in accordance with my husband "cute". You see we both came upon about one another then we noticed what we each regarded like...One in all his first issues he stated was "I'm black" my reply was "so and I am white, is that a problem".We started off as friends and now that now we have met and he has met my chidren they also Love him..But to my Mother her thing is Black men beat their girl and so they love plus dimension girl. And for this I'm very thankful. African American tradition should educate kids at an early age that many alternative choices can be found than what's conventional or that we view within the media. Why ought to I try for every other ultimate these similar corruptors have set forth? He liked her very a lot, the issue was that through the years of relationship she had positioned on fairly a little bit of weight. The ladies I noticed have been self assured, or not less than they mirrored this it appeared to me. As I read your put up I used to be reminded of a radio speak present I had heard a number of months in the past that hit me in some ways. The present consisted of a white man, a white lady, and a black man. The black man gave an important hearty snort and stated, "All of the extra to love and hold on to!" His response was so trustworthy and it was apparent he was honest.I had at all times been hung up about my measurement, at occasions very unhealthy in my self picture and thought that as a girl I have to be skinny but curvy to be engaging. Callers wrote in to ask love advice and the three radio personalities responded on air with advice. For one I can never be white so there have to be another woman, a black lady, that may be very best. After 2 youngsters, 30 years, I'm a plus measurement additionally. They appeared to have a better awareness of who they were and a comfort in their body form and measurement, their inate magnificence, that I noticed missing in my self and the white girls I knew. This morning the subject was a letter received by a young male who said he & his girlfriend have been now engaged. The white man's response was 'dump her now', the white lady's response was anger that if he liked her why does her dimension matter. 6. I obtained the same reaction
Sun, Sep 19, 1999 - 4:06 PM/EST
marian Colleen just such as you i received the identical response from my household. The same theoretical forces that shaped the false notions of African American culture. I have seen nonetheless that even at my heavy factors after having kids, it was typically Hispanic and African American men that would nonetheless see my magnificence. You fall in love with the particular person. I believe that some "White" folks just don't understand what attracts you to somebody of one other culture. This plurality allows for a more broad view of what's acceptable in every thing, not simply lovely girls. If you happen to can be flawed about me you may be mistaken about different issues. I all the time try to explain it like this, what if we have been all born blind, how would you recognize what colour we had been. But to me its not the color of an individual however the individual inside , and i acquired to know him from the inside first before assembly the outer core. I wish to say thanks very much for "opening a can of worms" because you're serving to us get to actual, sincere issues which can be exhausting! Maybe their weight want not be an element in their sexuality or femininity just like their color want not be. I'm also a plus size and once i first began chatting with my boyfiend(yes i met him on the internet),i felt complelled to inform him that i used to be no Tara Banks, he replied to me that he doesnt care concerning the body that i've been put in however the individual i am inside. I've seen myself portrayed as a black particular person and it isn't an accurate image. Learn more featured posts here or proceed studying thread 22 from Relationship Group 7. And as i have said to my household, I am Comfortable and so are my children..And if that's in order that black men love plus measurement lady, effectively maybe everybody ought to give us a chance cause i'm not only dealing with the inter-racial factor i'm also coping with "Fats individuals are lazy and not sexy in any respect" And Colleen you requested that question earlier than i may and didnt take any offense to it..Thanks 7. Beauty
Mon, Sep 20, 1999 - 9:35 AM/EST
heather Colleen,
I applaude your decision to talk actually. We as Americans are fed this ideal of a petite white lady as the goal or fruits of femininity. The man acknowledged that he was concerned of her measurement and her weight continueing to extend after marraige.